Are you dating someone who leaves you feeling unsure as to his true intentions? Maybe he’s not very open about his feelings of affection, or perhaps he’s not much of a showy guy. These signs can make you worried that he doesn’t love you.
But words aren’t the only way to show affection, and many times, gesturess play just as significant a role in showcasing love.
PSYCHOLOGISTS EXPLAIN 6 GESTURES THAT REVEAL A MAN IS IN LOVE WITH YOU
1. HE’S WILLING TO WORK THROUGH PROBLEMS
Every relationship experiences problems, such as conflict, difficult times, and rough life events that you will weather together. It can take a lot of strength to decide to push through despite those problems. So if the man in your life is willing to do so, it’s likely because he cares deeply for you and loves you. Here are some signs of this:
· HE’S WILLING TO COMPROMISE
Compromise is one of the most crucial ingredients to a positive relationship. A man who happily participates in the give and take and tries to find a win-win solution, even at the expense of what he fully wants, is one who loves you. He wants to make it work with you, and he wants you to be as happy as possible with the outcome of disagreements.
· HE’LL TALK ABOUT THE ISSUES YOU BOTH FACE
Without communication, relationships die an early death. This man wants to love you for a long time if he’s willing to discuss problems together. Your man is open about how he feels, he listens to how you feel, and he doesn’t shy away from working with you to better understand each other’s perspectives.
· HE DOESN’T EXPECT YOU TO BE PERFECT
Let’s face it. No one’s perfect. You’re going to make your fair share of mistakes too. But he doesn’t use these things against you. He communicates what he feels about the things you’ve done, and you’re able to talk about them so you can take steps to improve yourself. He’s in love with all of you – the good and the bad.
· HE DOESN’T FREAK OUT AT YOUR PROBLEMS
Got some skeletons in your closet? He doesn’t care. He listens, he tries to understand, and he respects your past. This gesture means he loves you, and what’s most important to him is the here and now.
2. HE SHOWS IT IN SUBTLE BODY LANGUAGE
Some men aren’t very verbally open about their feelings, especially when you haven’t reached a stage in your relationship where that would be preferable. That’s why nonverbal communication is just as crucial in getting a more accurate, positive idea of a man’s feelings. Here are some signs to look out for:
· RAISED EYEBROWS
This gesture is an unconscious gesture that will happen when a man sees or hears something pleasing. They will discreetly raise and lower.
Do you catch him staring at you when he thinks you’re not looking, especially with a particularly loving expression in his eyes? If he does this even when you’re doing unremarkable things or not all dolled up, he might be in love!
· EYE CONTACT
A man who makes eye contact with you may be trying to flirt with his eyes, or he may be completely engrossed in what you’re saying. Either way, they’re good signs!
· PUPIL DILATION
If you’re looking into his eyes and notice that his pupils are large and dilated, he’s attracted to you. This effect is because dopamine, a positive love hormone, effects iris size. (Oxytocin does so too!)
· BIG SMILES
A man who is in love will have an amazingly genuine smile that seems to speak of more than just humor. A giant smile from ear to ear when he sees you indicates he’s falling head over heels!
Mirroring is a widespread form of body language that shows interest. When someone is infatuated, their subconscious picks up on the object of their affection’s actions, causing them to mimic those movements.
· LEANING IN
When a man leans in when you speak, he is giving in to a subconscious desire to be closer to you. It also shows that he is genuinely 100% interested in what you have to say.
3. HE FINDS EXCUSES TO TOUCH YOU
Touch is a prevalent way that men show their attraction to someone. So if he’s (respectfully) finding ways to touch you in what seems like subtle ways, he could be in love! Here are some things to clue you in:
· HE PLAYS WITH YOUR HAIR
Playing with your hair is flirtatious and showcases a fun-loving side. A man who is playing with your hair is trying to get across the fact that he’s into you. It’s not discreet anymore; it’s outright flirting!
· HE DISCREETLY TOUCHES YOUR HANDS OR LEGS
When you’re interacting, he will lightly touch your hand, arm, or leg. Often, men perform these small actions to encourage the person they like to reciprocate. He’s showing you that you can do the same to him – or more!
· HE SEEMS TO ENJOY PLAYING WITH YOUR HANDS.
When the two of you are out on a stroll, he makes sure to brush your hands with his regularly, whether intentionally or just because he happens to be walking that close.
When he openly holds your hand, he seems to play with your hands and fingers almost absentmindedly. He makes sure to find an excuse to hold your hand often so that he can do it again and again.
· HE’S CONSTANTLY TRYING TO GET CLOSER
This man will find any reason to get closer to you. He sits right next to you whenever he can. He reaches out to touch you often. He wants to cuddle or hold your hand whenever you’re together. If he’s not in love by now, he’s definitely getting there!
4. HE IS OPEN WITH YOU
Sure, it’s a bit of a stereotype, but many men don’t feel very secure about opening up regarding their emotions. Plus, a relationship automatically makes both parties more vulnerable. So if a man is happy being open with you in spite of possible rejection, then he’s willing to take a big leap to see if you love him, too.
Besides, a man who can see a future with you is going to be more open about his issues, feelings, and deepest troubles. He wants you to know who he is – and he wants to know who you are, too.
5. HE DOES THINGS FOR YOU
To drop everything and do something for another person indicates genuine caring and love. It means that he considers you more important than everything else in his life – unless it’s something unavoidable, of course.
This gesture means that he will not complain about you being a burden. He won’t scoff and leave you be when you’re in dire need of aid. He won’t brush off your emotions, difficulties, and negative moments and tell you to use positive thinking and handle it on your own.
This is because he invests himself in you. He wants you to stick around, and he honestly, selflessly, wants to do anything he can to make your life better. That’s when you know you’ve got a keeper! Here are some examples of things he’ll do:
- He will immediately rush to you in your time of need
- He treats you like a priority in his life
- He takes note of what you like and makes sure to use that information to make you happy
- He considers you his number one
- He goes out of his way to make you smile or make you happy
- He pays attention to small details and performs small, sweet gestures
- He chooses you over other obligations, especially when you don’t ask him to
- He tries things he doesn’t like just because you like them
6. HE INCLUDES YOU IN HIS LIFE
If someone doesn’t care for you, or if they don’t see you in their future, they’re not going to bother making you a big part of their life. That’s why once a man starts including you in his everyday life, you know he’s serious and pretty much in love. But how can you tell he includes you? Here are a few ways.
· YOU’VE MET HIS FRIENDS
A guy’s friends aren’t going to be introduced to some random fling. If he’s introducing his buddies to you, then you know he’s into you for real. He’ll likely want their thoughts and opinions on you, and he wants to see how well you guys get along.
· YOU’VE MET HIS FAMILY
Meeting the family is not a small matter. To most men, it’s a huge milestone. So if he’s taking you home to meet his family, he’s quite serious about you at that point. After all, this type of meeting can be quite stressful – why would he go through with it unless he thought it was more than worth it?
· HE TALKS ABOUT YOU TO OTHERS
This man is proud of you. He tells everyone about you, even if it’s just by bringing you up casually in conversation. If you meet someone he knows and they say they’ve heard so much about you, that’s a good sign.
· YOU SPEND A LOT OF TIME TOGETHER
You two spend loads of time going on dates, talking on the phone, or chilling at each other’s houses. It’s like you’ve both become a part of each other. If a man isn’t fond of that, he’d very quickly shut it all down. But if he’s eager to keep spending time with you, he might just be in love!
· YOU’RE INCLUDED IN HIS PLANS
When he talks about his future, his plans seem to include you. He doesn’t have to be ringing wedding bells and talking about kids to do so. Just mentioning where he may be in a few months and speaking as though you will still be a part of his life shows that he wants you to stick around, and usually, that’s love talking.
FINAL THOUGHTS ON THESE GESTURES OF LOVE
Nonverbal signs of love are incredibly vital when someone truly cares about you. Many of us reduce the idea of love to massive life-changing statements and passionate declarations of undying love. But love isn’t always just in the things someone says. More often than not, it’s in what they do. After all, don’t actions speak louder than words?