Men can be vile and despicable pigs sometimes. Granted, not all men are going to be this way. But there are quite a few rotten apples out there who ruin the whole romantic experience for women all around the world. These are the men who are always just chasing after women for the hell of it. They say all sorts of sweet and flowery words in order to seduce women. They try to get these ladies hooked on to their little scams.
But once they feel like they’ve gotten enough out of the girl, they just move on to a whole new victim. They aren’t really serious about being with a woman. They aren’t really going to make any efforts whatsoever to repay her loyalty or commitment to him. He’s just going to get up and leave her once he’s through with her. And it’s sad. This is definitely the kind of guy that you would just want to be avoided at all costs. This is the kind of guy you need to protect yourself from at all times.
However, given that he is pretty sneaky and crafty, it can be very hard to pick him out of a litter. He’s going to be able to hide his bad intentions really well, and he’s going to make any girl susceptible to his tactics. It’s going to be really hard to protect yourself from someone you can’t really see. That’s why you have to maintain a certain sense of self-awareness in your relationship. If you make yourself aware of the red flags of this kind of guy, then you would be able to protect yourself even better. You would be in a better position to guard your heart against this kind of man.
It’s not always going to be an easy task trying to figure out a man’s intentions when you’re only starting to get to know him. You don’t want to lock yourself up either to the point that you just close yourself off entirely to the idea of love. You still want to pursue love and you know that that is going to require a certain level of vulnerability. But you don’t want to be overly vulnerable to the point that you open yourself up to the potential trauma and stress that this guy would inflict on you.
If you spot a lot of the following red flags in a guy that you’re seeing, then you might want to check out of that relationship fast before it gets too late.
1. HE NEVER INTRODUCES YOU TO THE IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN HIS LIFE.
He hasn’t really introduced you to the important people in his life yet. He doesn’t think you’re going to be around long enough for that to be important.
2. HE ONLY TEXTS YOU WHEN HE’S LOOKING TO HOOK UP.
The only times he ever reaches out to you is when he’s looking to hook up or when he needs you to do something for him. All of his motivations come from an innate sense of selfishness. He always wants to be able to gain something from being with you.
3. HE DOESN’T TRY TO DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU.
He doesn’t try to define the relationship with you at all. He always shies away from that conversation. He tries to change the topic or he never gives you a straight answer. He’s always just coasting along without really giving you any assurance that he’s going to be around for the long haul.
4. HE SAYS THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF.
He is always saying all sorts of things that make you feel bad about yourself. Instead of boosting your confidence and making you feel happy, he demeans you and he insults you. He doesn’t’ care about the fact that his words are hurtful to you. He doesn’t really care much about your feelings in general.
5. HE MAKES YOU VERY ANXIOUS ABOUT THE STATE OF THE RELATIONSHIP.
He never makes you feel comfortable whenever the two of you are together. It’s as if you’re constantly having to walk on eggshells whenever you are with him. He just never gives you a sense of safety or security even though that should practically be his job.
6. HE DOESN’T SHOW ANY SIGNS OF CARE OR INTEREST IN YOU.
He is never really willing to show any signs of care or interest in you. He’s always just acting selfishly and narcissistically. You never get the sense that he has any kind of emotional investment in your personality or your life.
7. HE LETS YOU PAY ALL OF THE TIME.
He never shows a willingness to shell out any cash for you. If he’s not making it seem like he’s willing to pay for you, then obviously, you’re really not that important to him.