Take this time to think about the perfect man for you. Really try to picture him in your brain. What does he look like? What’s his personality like? What are his hobbies and interests?
What is he passionate about? Really think about it for a second. Try to shape this entire persona in your mind. Are you finished? Great. Now ask yourself this: is your partner a selfish one?
Well, if you’re a sane and reasonable woman, you would likely say that you would never want to be in a relationship with a selfish man, right?
If that’s the case, then you are probably like a vast majority of girls in this world. You would never want to be with someone who is always just thinking of himself.
You wouldn’t want to be with a guy whose favorite topics in life essentially revolve around himself. You would always want to be with a guy who has a generosity about him that you know would be good for you and your relationship. However, you won’t always be able to protect yourself.
There will be a few times wherein you will eventually have selfish men walk into your life. And you will be helpless to their charm and their charisma. You will be played by them so well and you might not be able to do anything about it at first.
Don’t beat yourself up over it. It happens. It’s not really uncommon for people to fall in love with those who aren’t necessarily right for them. You shouldn’t be ashamed of the fact that you ended up falling in love with a selfish man.
You won’t always know that a person is going to be a selfish one right away. Sometimes, it can take a while before a person’s true colors actually come out into the open.
And the fact that you’re in love doesn’t make it easier for you either. Love has a way of blinding people from the red flags that they need to be taking note of in a relationship.
You might be so in love with a person to the point that you become so tolerant of the things that you shouldn’t really be tolerated at all. You can want love so much for yourself to the point that you unknowingly make compromise that you shouldn’t really be compromising on.
Love has a tendency to override a person’s better judgment. All of the facts might already be there for you to see but love might be distracting you from seeing them. You aren’t always going to be able to help who you fall in love with. However, you are always in control of how you act on that love.
You have to make it a point to always stay mindful of how your man is treating you in your relationship. And if you notice that he is acting selfishly, then perhaps you should consider breaking away from being with him. Here are a few signs that the man you love is only using you and is acting selfishly.
1. HE DOESN’T REALLY TALK TO YOU ABOUT THE STATUS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
He doesn’t talk to you about commitment at all. He refuses to attach any names or labels to your relationship. He doesn’t want to make anything official between the two of you.
2. HE ONLY PLEASES HIMSELF DURING SEXUAL INTIMACY.
Whenever the two of you are getting sexually intimate, he is only ever just pleasing himself. He makes sure that he has a good time. But he couldn’t care less if you are left unfulfilled and unsatisfied. He doesn’t really care about pleasing you.
3. HE USES YOU AS A PERSONAL MONEY FOUNTAIN.
He is always using you as a personal money fountain. He looks to you to pay his bills. He always makes you buy him expensive toys and clothes. He always expects you to pay for the dates that you go on. He always assumes that you would support him financially.
4. HE NEVER REALLY ASKS YOU ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL.
He has no investment in how you are feeling at all. He doesn’t really care about your emotional or physical well-being. He couldn’t care less if you’re feeling all broken up and unfulfilled on the inside. He doesn’t make an effort to get to know you better.
5. HE DOESN’T OPEN UP TO YOU ABOUT HIS LIFE.
He doesn’t really try to open up to you about anything in his life. He doesn’t want to let you in. He doesn’t want you to feel like you have access into his soul.
6. HE STILL KEEPS HIS OPTIONS OPEN.
He’s still a guy who’s keeping his options open because he knows that he isn’t really going to have a long relationship with you. He’s only looking to milk as much out of you as he can and then he would dump you at the first opportunity.