Happiness is from the Lord.
When everything was stripped away, she stood. Frail. But stood just the same. God was her focus and she clung to His promises. Seeking His refuge when the world threatened to drag her down with it’s heavy chains of negativity and unmet needs.
Their income was not steady, family unkind and the stress – she could feel it building up. What does a Christian wife do when the happiness she once felt drifts away like escaped balloons?
The things is, happiness doesn’t come from having the right amount of cash in the bank, the perfect husband, greatest kids and accepting family.
Happiness, true happiness, only comes from the Lord.
It doesn’t come from your husband.
It doesn’t come from the stuff you buy.
Or from your kids or career.
That is a need only to be filled by the Lord.
You are the only one who can give your husband a happy wife.
I think, often times, we get it mixed up. That happiness is only found in another person or the right circumstances.
Peace is a person, it’s Jesus Himself. God’s peace and joy are not attached to certain aspects of life or people. It’s to be sought after under every life situation we face.
Good and Bad.
“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!” Philippians 4:4
As a Christian wife, we are called to be our husbands help meet, supporter, and partner in life. Laying upon his shoulders the responsibility to make you happy is not a fair expectation.
Of course, marriage goes much better when both spouses are serving each other. Yet, we are called to love our husbands well, even if we feel they fall short of loving us well.
5 Tips on Giving Your Husband a Happy Wife
#1 Watching Your Words
Let’s strive to give happiness and peace to our husbands by creating a soft landing spot for them. Going to your Heavenly Father first – on all problems, hurts and concerns, before dumping your ugly feelings all over your spouse. Seeking God’s perspective over every situation. And when it’s time to talk, look for the right time to bring up those hard subjects. Asking God to cover your thoughts, feeling and words with His love and grace. Remember, unmet needs need to be taken to our Heavenly Father before our husbands.
“She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:12
#2 Greet Him With A Smile
Let’s strive to smile often. A genuine, sincere smile. Greeting your spouse with your full attention when he walks through the door. If you’re watching TV, cleaning the house, or typing away – creating at the world’s next greatest novel, look up and greet your man with a loving smile. The world is harsh. Coming home after a long day’s work and negativity oozing from you and every corner of your home is not reflecting Jesus nor your walk with Him.
#3 Pursue Your Man
Ladies, let’s not leave it up to our husbands to do all the pursuing. Reaching for his hand when walking, smacking his toosh as you walk by, and making sex a priority will go a long way in offering your husband a happy wife. Play-fights that lead to a passionate kiss are a lot of fun! *wink *wink
#4 Respect Your Man
God knew exactly what He was doing when He called wives to respect their husbands. (1 Peter 3:1) No eye rolling allowed. In public, build your husband up. No one needs to know that it took him 3 times to tile the bathroom floor. Speak good things of him and over him. Second guessing every little thing he does only speaks of your distrust of him and his decisions. Be your husband’s biggest cheerleader!
#5 Spend Time At The Feet Of Jesus
Ultimately, the true source of how you can give your husband a happy wife is by sitting at the feet of Jesus. Your quiet time with the Lord will speak volumes into your own happiness. Which will prepare you and inspire you to be the happy wife your husband needs and deserves. Pray for your husband. As we read God’s word and seek His perspective, God changes our hearts and thoughts. We align our actions up with those that reflect Him and His grace. Seeking after the heart of God, asking Him to change us to be the woman that He wants us to be.
“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4
I want to encourage you, as Christian wives, to seek God as the true source of your happiness. As you do this, may God overfill your cup to bless your husband.